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Mrs. Boyd - School Social Worker

I am the school social worker, Mrs. Boyd.  My role is to provide education and support to our students regarding their social and emotional needs so that they can be successful in school.  I provide in class lessons in all of the K-5 classrooms on coping skills, conflict resolution, and relationship skills.  For students in crisis, I am available to provide emotional and behavioral support.  I provide counseling through IEPs, 504s, and MTSS plans for students the team identifies to be in need.  Families can also reach out to me for support regarding community resources for their child.  I reach out by Talking Points to all families with information about classroom lessons, skills, and resources.  Families can always respond to my messages with individualized questions.  
 
Check out my Links page for access to my Google Classroom as well as many community resources you might find helpful.
 
 

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Social Emotional Book List

Here is a list of books about Social Emotional topics that you can use with your children if you are interested.  If you have any feedback about the books, please share it with me and I would love to hear how you and your children respond to these books!
Active Listening
 
In February we are learning about how to be a active good listener. We discussed using good body language to show we are listening and also trying to comment or ask questions that show interest and caring so that we really understand.
 
In the older grades, 3 Steps we focused on were:
1. Use empathy.  Say something about how you think they might feel or how you would feel in their situation.
2. Do not judge!  Just comment or ask questions to understand.  Even if you disagree, do not tell them they are wrong, ask them why they think that way.  
3. Watch your body language.  Look at the person, make sure your face is being open and curious (not judgmental or angry).  If they feel comfortable with you, they will share more and you can work out any disagreements easier.
 
The younger students were asked to do these things (a modification of the older classes):
1. Look at the person
2. Lean in to show you're paying attention.
3. Nod when they are speaking
4. Try to say to them how they seem to be feeling and repeat what they said to you.
 
We talked about how this is hard when we feel upset by what someone says but that sometimes to comment on how the other person might be feeling and rephrase what they said can be helpful. Practice this in your home and show your kids how active listening helps!

Challenging Negative Thoughts

Our thoughts can make up feel upset.  For instance, if I have a test I might think, "This is so hard, I am going to get a bad grade" and then I my feel very worried and stressed.  However, if I notice how bad that thought makes me feel, I can change the thought to "This is probably going to be hard, so I am going to study hard and do my best".  I might still feel a little worried, but I will probably be more calm (in the green zone) and will probably end up not only feeling better but I will probably do better on my test.
 
I've attached a visual to offer ways to manage our negative thoughts to help us come up with a Bright Light Thought (one that guides our way to handling tough situations).   It is translated into Spanish, Khmer, Vienamese, Chinese, and Arabic. (If you require another language please email me).  
 
These strategies are as follows;

1. Throw it away.  If the thought is not true or is just not helpful at all and you can recognize that, get rid of it (literally by writing and throwing away or with our imaginations).  
 
2. Boss That Thought:  Remind your brain that you are in charge of what you're thinking and tell it to stop being so negative.  Offer a better thought that is realistic.
 
3. Picture if Perfect:  Especially if you are feeling worried about something going wrong, use your imagination and think about yourself having a positive experience with what you're worried about.
 
4. Mindful Minute:  Stop thinking about the upsetting thought (which is usually about the past or the future) and think about something right here, right now.  Notice your 5 senses.  Or Take belly breaths.  Or Do Backpack Breaths. 
 
5. Be Kind to Yourself:  Stop putting yourself down or thinking about your bad side.  Pretend you're talking to your best friend and be kind to yourself.
 
6. Ugh... But.  This means accept that the situation isn't good.  BUT maybe there is something ok that you can accept in the moment.  It's too cold to have outdoor recess, but I can play with toys in my classroom. 

Communication Styles for Kids - Passive Mouse, Assertive Dog, Aggressive Alligator

This visual describes the 3 styles of communication for the students to understand. Generally we want our children to express themselves respectfully, clearly, and confidentally - like our Assertive Dog.  The other two types generally are less effective and cause problems.  The Passive Mouse lacks confidence, is shy, and doesn't express their need directly either because they don't talk or they whine or complain.  The Aggressive Alligator style uses anger, bullying, pressuring, or putting others down to get what we want.  
 
This attachment includes versions in English, Spanish, Arabic, Khmer, Chinese, and Vietnamese.  If you require any additional languages please reach out to me at [email protected].

Feelings Thermometer Arabic

Here is the feelings thermometer I posted earlier translated into Arabic.
 
إليكم مقياس حرارة المشاعر الذي نشرته سابقًا مترجمًا إلى اللغة العربية.
'iilaykum miqyas hararat almashaeir aladhi nasharath sabqan mtrjman 'iilaa allughat alearabiati.

Feelings Thermometer Khmer

Here is the feelings thermometer I posted earlier translated into Khmer.
 
នេះ​ជា​ទែម៉ូម៉ែត្រ​អារម្មណ៍​ដែល​ខ្ញុំ​បាន​បង្ហោះ​មុន​នេះ​បក​ជា​ភាសា​ខ្មែរ។
nih​ chea​ te mau metr​ arommo​ del​ khnhom​ ban​ banghoh​ moun​ nih​ b k​ chea​ pheasaea​ khmer .

Feelings Thermometer

This Feeling Thermometer relates to the  Zones of Regulation, showing how the Red Zone has the highest level of energy, while the Blue Zone has the lowest.  In order to get back to the Green Zone (where we have calm energy needed for school and positive relationships) we need skills to help us with our emotions.  This attachment has many coping skills that are helpful in each of the Zones.

Zones of Regulation - October SEL Lesson

What Are We Learning?
 
We are learning to categorize our feelings
into four colored Zones of Regulation. A
Zone is how we feel on the INSIDE, which
includes our emotions and energy.
 
Why Is It Important?
 
Grouping our feelings into the four
Zones makes it easier to understand,
talk about, and regulate them.
 
Talk with your students about these ideas and use the poster to help them identify which zone they are on the Feelings Thermometer and what coping skills might help.